Why is dating so hard?

Written by Navy Nick

Dating can be challenging due to factors like increased options and expectations, societal pressures, and the complexities of human connection, leading to potential issues like ghosting and unrealistic standards. 

Here’s a breakdown of some common reasons why dating can feel difficult:

1.⁠ ⁠Increased Options and Expectations:

⁠Dating apps and technology:

The rise of dating apps and social media has expanded the dating pool, but also increased the pressure to find the “perfect” partner, leading to higher standards and expectations. 

⁠ ⁠Comparison to others:

Constant exposure to idealized images and relationships on social media can create unrealistic expectations and make people feel inadequate. 

“Buffet Mindset”:

Some people may feel like they have to try out many options before settling down, leading to a lack of commitment and potentially hurtful experiences. 

2.⁠ ⁠Societal and Cultural Factors:

⁠”Me Too” movement:

The movement has made some men wary of approaching women in public, while others may feel unsure about how to navigate modern dating norms.

Economic factors:

Stagnant wages and rising costs can make it harder to afford dates and maintain a comfortable lifestyle, potentially impacting dating opportunities.

Changing family dynamics:

With a growing number of people choosing not to have children, this can create a divide in the dating pool as people prioritize different values. 

3.⁠ ⁠Challenges in Human Connection:

⁠Ghosting and lack of communication:

The prevalence of ghosting, where someone abruptly ends communication without explanation, can be hurtful and leave people feeling confused and rejected. 

⁠Fear of rejection:

The fear of rejection can make people hesitant to put themselves out there and take risks in dating. 

⁠Difficulty with vulnerability and honesty:

Some people may struggle to be open and honest about their needs and desires, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations. 

Different dating styles:

People may have different expectations and preferences for dating, which can lead to clashes and difficulties in finding compatibility.

Dating anxiety:

Some people may experience anxiety when dating, especially after a long-term relationship or if they have experienced rejection or emotional pain. 

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Nickalus Randle